Faith drives activism for gay rights supporters

Oct. 01, 2009
Same-sex couple Shelly Bailes and Ellen Pontac react after hearing that California's Supreme Court upheld a ban on same-sex marriage in San Francisco May 26.
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WASHINGTON -- As thousands of gays and lesbians prepare to march on the nation's capital to push for equal rights, leaders from a range of faiths say it's time to stop using religion as a weapon to oppose same-sex marriage.

What's more, advocates for gay rights say their faith and a sacred belief in justice are what actually form the foundation of their support for gay and lesbian unions.

Brent Childers, an evangelical Christian, said he once used religious tenets to support prejudice toward the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community, but "I realized those attitudes were not in keeping with my religious values by causing harm using religious teaching."

He said supporting same-sex marriage is in keeping with his faith because "what's essential is those core principals of love, compassion and respect for others."

Now, as executive director of Faith in America, Childers leads a group whose mission statement embraces the goal of "emancipat(ing) lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people from bigotry as disguised by religious truth."

Childers is among the more than 100 religious leaders who have endorsed the Oct. 11 National Equality March on behalf of gay rights. Several faith groups are planning religious events in the Washington area Oct. 9-11, including an interfaith service before the march.

The two-mile march on the afternoon of Oct. 11 will culminate in a rally outside the U.S. Capitol.

Speakers will include Judy Shepard, whose son Matthew was killed in a hate crime in 1998; lawmakers from New York City and Los Angeles; and veteran gay activists Clive Jones and David Mixner. Regional groups around the country are organizing trips to Washington, a well as events in their own cities on Oct. 11.

The march is preceded by two days of events that include workshops on lobbying tactics and media training. On Oct. 10, there will be a wreath-laying at the Tomb of the Unknowns at Arlington National Cemetery to honor gay service members discharged under the military's Don't Ask, Don't Tell policy.

"We believe all people are created in God's image. Doing anything less than fighting for equality for all is not living into our calling," said Kareem Murphy, one of the members of Washington's predominantly gay Metropolitan Community Church, which is helping organize members of various Christian denominations to attend the march and related events.

"Christ ministered to people who are considered outsiders, and we want to continue that ministry," he said.

Robin McGehee, co-director of the march, said it took years to reconcile her Baptist faith with her lesbian sexual orientation. "I finally understood I could have both uniquely and effectively and not have to choose one over the other," she said.

Another march supporter, Faith in America founder and furniture magnate Mitchell Gold, said, "There's been a real mobilization of faith groups saying faith is equal to justice."

Several Jewish leaders also have endorsed the march, including Rabbi Eric Yoffie, president of the Union for Reform Judaism, and Rabbi Denise Eger, president of the Pacific Association for Reform Rabbis. Eger said Jewish history, from slavery in ancient Egypt to the horror of the Holocaust, has colored Jewish activism on behalf of gay rights since the 1960s.

"We've had the ultimate experience of dehumanization," she said. "What's happening now, that's alarm bells. What's next?"

The Rev. Irene Monroe, a doctoral candidate at Harvard Divinity School, likened the same-sex marriage debate to the 1960s struggle for African-American civil rights. She said there were religious teachings that supported slavery as well as a ban on interracial marriage that are now considered shameful.

"A lot of the bigotry that we as LGBT people face is based on religion," she said.

Molly Kropp, 35, who attended a recent fundraiser for the march, said her support for same-sex marriage got down to a question of morality. "It should just be about common respect," she said, "and spreading awareness of the idea of equality."

"A lot of the bigotry that we

"A lot of the bigotry that we as LGBT people face is based on religion," she said.

So WHY do GLBTQ people waste their time seeking approval/permission/justification from antiquated institutions that continue to persecute them using their holy books as the rationale?

Are the LCWR, CTA, and NCR

Are the LCWR, CTA, and NCR co-sponsoring this?

What a wonderful Christian

What a wonderful Christian witness it would be if they were!

I doubt it. Read the article.

I doubt it. Read the article. None of those groups is mentioned.

Good for the marchers. I

Good for the marchers. I cringe every time I hear the Church does something against the GLBT community (most recent was the CCHD pulling funding to some organization in San Fran who wanted Prop 8 defeated).

It will take time to change prejudices. Some of the rejection is politically motivated, some of it is still part of a fallout to the sex scandals, (many bishops and up do not differentiate between homosexuality and pedophilia), and some of it is a generational matter, as more younger people than older people support GLBT causes (though in the Church that renewal will come from post-Benedict XVI priests).

Part of the Catholic Social Justice teachings is to reach out to the poor and marginalized, to see them in you, and that is what I use to work against institutional prejudice. I am hopeful in the long term that things will turn around as hard as the short term will continue to be until the fear of the unknown fades away at the highest levels of Rome and a new Pentacost comes for GLBT people in the Church and wider world.

For me, it's more of an

For me, it's more of an equal-right/equal protection sort of thing. If the bishop has a problem with that - he needs to become a better American. Those who want to live in a Christian theocracy can move to the Vatican -that is if the Vatican will take them. Otherwise - I guess it's Ave maria, Fl where they can live in their little all-Catholicism/all the time, totally non-gay (yeah, they wish) world.

Clearly, a distinction has to

Clearly, a distinction has to be drawn between support for "gay" marriage and support for gay rights. I'm not addressing moral or religious issues here. The issue of homosexuality is problematic in many ways and reasonable people can disagree on how the law addresses this issue.

But marriage is something very special and important in a society. To me the concept of "gay" marriage is irrational on its face. Procreation should be central to the concept of civil marriage which it always has been until fairly recently with the push for "gay" marriage. Only a heterosexual couple has the potential to procreate naturally. Civil marriage doesn't require procreation but it expects the potential to be there.

Homosexual couples simply cannot procreate naturally. Admittedly lesbians can be artificially inseminated but they are not capable of any form of intercourse. Gay males can have unnatural intercourse but they are incapable of bearing children. So when it comes to marriage the bottom line from a civil perspective is that gay couples are unqualified. Hence to deny them marriage is not to discriminate against them.

I suppose if everyone agreed

I suppose if everyone agreed to limit your definition of marriage as "the means to procreate" then you may succeed in your effort to marginalize a whole group of people. But don't think for one minute that it is not discrimination.

I would ask you to dig deeper. Why is it that you feel YOU get to define what marriage should mean to people? Should procreation continue to be used to deny people in a same-sex household the social security benefits that YOU enjoy? Should it be used to continue to tax same sex couples when one's company provides health insurance, when YOU are not subject to those taxes? Should it be used to deny same sex couples hospital visitation rights for a spouse when YOU would be allowed access? Should it be used to deny gay people inheritance rights that YOU enjoy?

Gay people have the same tax burden (and in some cases more, since they cannot file jointly). What makes you feel so superior that you would deny others the privileges that come with those responsibilities? To me, it seems that you are using false arguments in order to preserve your special rights. People who derive their self esteem at the expense of others need to dig deeper within themselves to understand that allowing others to live freely does not make you a lesser person. This is not a sum zero game. As a matter of fact, when we learn to respect all people we lift each other up.

Don't fool yourself - it is discrimination. And it will end. The time is coming and you will be left behind as a footnote in history, just as those that opposed civil rights for people of color.

I pray that you will take a few moments to reflect upon what it is that drives your

I understand the conclusion

I understand the conclusion you reached based on how you see the role the body plays in what marriage is. But this is not universally agreed upon. There are those who see the deep psychological and spiritual connection between two people as the fundemental principle as to what marriage is. Also, you have left out what makes a family and what roll does marriage play in what is understood to be a family (if that can ever be agreed on). I think you are correct when you say that "resonable people can disagree". We have a strong history in our country in protecting the rights of those with whom we may have disagreements. Also, with faith, one of the biggest challanges is trying to understand when what one believes is not just something that we have a right to believe, but it is also something we have a right to force on others - a complicated issue to address, I know. Churches are free to teach what they believe, but, since there is no indication that granting a same-sex couple the right to marry injures anyone, this is an area where, I beleive, we need a seperation Church and State. I just haven't been shown any evidence as to how allowing same-sex marriage infringes on the rights of anyone else, whereas dening it, clearly does (inhertance, taxes, social security, end of life directives...)

Once again paulte you are so

Once again paulte you are so mistaken in your "logic." How you can think that "a distinction has to be drawn between support for "gay" marriage and support for gay rights" is of any real logic is difficult to understand. One part (gay marriage) can't be distinct from the other (gay rights). If one is to follow your thinking, then one's rights can be limited by others. How totally un-American. You hold that procreation is central to marriage; does this mean that infertile couples or people who choose not to have children (for a variety of reasons but including wanting to stop the passing of genetic disorders) should be denied marriage? But most importantly, you neglect the fact that marriage has always been about ownership of property (including, sadly, the wife herself!) and is originally a civil concept - not a religious one. The current struggle for EQUAL rights by gays and lesbians is to have that civil right of marriage. How you jump to making the religious concept the origin of the civil concept is so flawed it is obvious. Your thinking - as demonstrated here and in your other postings - is quite disordered and based entirely on concepts dispelled decades - if not centuries - ago. And lastly, you lack so much of a Christian perspective to your positions it diminishes the exploration of important issues of faith and community.

I'm trying to say that

I'm trying to say that logically a person could be for some sort of "gay rights" such as civil unions while being opposed to the notion of "gay marriage" by my excellent analysis of the marriage question. This does not mean that paulte supports "gay rights". In point of fact, the state should put no stamp of approval on homosexuality. However, the state can be neutral on the question. Live & let live if you will.

Even if a person has a homosexual orientation, I don't believe such a person can find happiness in life by living a gay lifestyle. Sexuality by God's law should be confined to normal (hetero) marriage. No one can find happiness by living outside of God's law; it brings spiritual death and sadly since the AIDS epidemic, it can bring physical death as well.

For the homosexual person celibacy is the only option. However, this doesn't mean they must live as religious do. If they find a person to love and live with that person in a chaste relationship, say as siblings do, then that is acceptable to God, I believe. There are many types of love and erotic love is only one of them.

This story begs the question

This story begs the question "What is marriage?" What is civil marriage, what should it be and why? What is the Roman Catholic sacrament of marriage, what should it be and why?

Over the last 100 years there has been greater & greater divergence between the civil marriage and the Catholic sacrament. Does change in one definition require change in the other definition? That's not clear.

The civil definition of marriage in, say, California, seems to have changed to say that marriage has more to do with "family of choice," serial monogamy (at best), fiscal/tax/legal benefits, and does not necessarily imply or require reproduction.

None of this is consonant with the Catholic definition of a sacramental marriage. The Catholic rejoinder to changes in civil marriage is that social & cultural change to a "pre-legal" institution is asking for trouble; the lack of stability in marriage and (if there are children) family has a demonstrable, measurable social impact.

The trouble is not everyone believes in that demonstrable, measurable impact. Some like and favor change. And some don't care - some people regard this as a private issue & decision and simply want to do what they want and be left alone, by other people, by the state and by religion. What response does the Catholic Church make to this position in and for itself? What response does the Church make in and for society, in terms of social impact? What response does secular society make, regardless of what the Church or other religious institutions say?

If marriage is only a "construct" then marriage can be whatever we want it to be. So, what do we want to marriage to be, and does the Catholic Church have anything to say on the issue? The Church says yes, it does have something to say and offer. So do other people, institutions and organizations. Those sayings and offerings are often diametrically opposed to each other. Again, does the Church have anything to say about these differences, and does what it has to say matter, especially to that segment of people who simply want to live their lives and be left alone?

Faith is expressed in many

Faith is expressed in many ways, to be sure, but there's no specifically Catholic news being reported here, national or otherwise. Why a story that simply informs us that some people are preparing for a political march, without even a mention that the subject matter is controversial, to say the least, amongst Catholics? In addition to being for all practical purposes an advertisement of the event, unchallenged are the legal, ethical, and theological views of the participants, which are in contrast with the teaching of the Catholic Church. Fair reporting would, at a minimum, solicit at least one quote from a person or organization that holds a different perspective. Being that NCR is a Catholic entity, albeit an independent one, I would expect that perspective to be Catholic.

NCR should refrain from expressed advocacy and focus on journalism.

And additional thought;"So

And additional thought;"So when it comes to marriage the bottom line from a civil perspective is that gay couples are ungualified. Hence to deny them marriage is not to discriminate against them." Well according to how you have built a case for this based on gay people's inablility to procrate, it would also not be discrimination to deny marriage to women who are past child bearing age, to younger women who, for one reason or another, are unable to conceive and to men, who's sperm count may be too low to father a child. So, until medical procedures are able to change some of these situations (even though some will always remain), the potential to procreate is not there. Therefore these people are "unqualified", hence no marriage allowed for these couples as well.

Now, if you are willing to allow marriage for these couples, you are stating that marriage has a value other then procreation.

Clearly, all straight couples

Clearly, all straight couples who cannot have children should be denied the "right" to marry as paulte the previous poster implies. Equating marriage with procreation is the most ridiculous notion entertained here. Platonic love has just been thrown out the window by this homophobe. So was that of nuns being married to Christ ...

Meanwhile, in Maine, the

Meanwhile, in Maine, the bishop ordered special collections during Mass to repeal the law allowing same-sex couples to marry, a law that was passed by the legislature & signed by the governor. With all the poverty in the world, the bishop adds to suffering instead of alleviating it.

So the "message" here is that

So the "message" here is that whatever any small group of people want, the surrounding majority of folk MUST accept as correct and change all their laws, customs, opinions, habits, etc. to cater to the whim of the few, right?

So tomorrow, using the GBLT crowd's precise arguments, we must accept polygamy as totally permissible "plural marriage" on par with any 1+1 paring. To refuse them would be to be bigots and engage in indefensible discrimination.

What about temporary marriage ala prostitution? Who says marriage has to be permanent? Why can't it be for a couple of hours?

What arbitrary age restrictions? If an 8 year old girl may have an abortion without her parents' knowledge, why can't she exercise her right to a temporary marriage?

But it's even better. If any small minority of people can arbitrarily re-define words and force any majority to accept this new definition, why can't "neo-cons" re-define the word "citizen" to include anyone from any part of the world who agrees with their policies such that they can win local elections by help from folk across the world? If taxation is the quibble, I'm sure alot of foreigners would be delighted to pay a fee to vote in American elections!

Or we could re-define the word "Rights" to mean "whatever the governing political party thinks is OK" and since there is no hard and fast meaning to any word beyond challenge by any minority group, ultimately this would come down to power, would it not?

This is not reducio ab absurdo - it's entirely likely to occur. You think gays ought to be married. Some Mormons (and Muslims) think they ought to have many wives....who are young. Others think Prostitution ought to be legal. Others think they ought to be free to opt out of taxation but still enjoy all the priviledges of citizenship.

It's hard to see how - other than a Constitutional amendment process wherein one side convinces an overwhelming majority of their fellow citizens to agree with them via force of persuasive argument and free voting - the current practice of ramming through re-definitions via courts will end without some form of open conflict. People don't like being told what to do. Gays don't like it do they? Well, neither do "straights". If it's rammed down throats via courts it'll spark an endless culture war and backlash. If it's won via the ballot box.... not so much.

So a word of wisdom...if you are so right, others will come to agree, freely. If you're wrong, then all the power in the world won't keep defeat from ultimately finding you.

I was pleased to support the

I was pleased to support the Bishop in Maine, and glady donated twice to Stand for Marriage Maine. When we passed the marriage amendment here in Wisconsin, I told those who were supporting the "A Fair Wisconsin Votes No" that a rational Wisconsin voted yes on the amendment. The Bishops blew it on the sex abuse crisis. That doesn't mean that the no longer can teach us on moral issues.

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