The face of Christ in the checkout line

When I was in my 20s I glimpsed the truth that we all wear the face of Christ in a unique way and that what we do unto anyone else we literally do unto ourselves. I’ve spent the rest of my life trying to remember that. Here are some things that help make it a habit.

(Newscom/Cameron Davidson)(Newscom/Cameron Davidson)1. The supermarket checkout. When standing in line at the checkout I remind myself that the individual in front of me is the Christ and that the injunction to love her as I love myself is literally true. A little miracle happens: I not only love her but like her, and if her credit card is no good or her kohlrabi doesn’t register, I don’t get mad. By the time it is my turn to chat with the dark-eyed checkout girl from Nicaragua I am madly in love.

2. The office visit. Despite a life of good intentions, workers who busted into my office with problems when I was busy doing my own work used to tax my patience. I mentioned this to Henri Nouwen who said, “Those people are your work.” I never forgot that.

3. The phone call. I told myself a long time ago to pause a moment before picking up the phone and remember that it was the voice of Christ calling (see No. 1). This worked beautifully for most of my work life (one author said, “Every time Mike picks up the phone you feel like he’s been waiting his whole life just to talk to you” -- that’s how you feel when you really know it’s the Christ on the line) until I semiretired and just about every time I picked up the phone it was a telemarketer who wouldn’t let go of my ear. That wore on my patience until a friend told me that my favorite spiritual teacher, Dr. Thomas Hora, had this telephone maxim: “Before you say hello, say I love you.” Now I don’t always say that to myself before I pick up the phone (or before someone I am calling picks up their phone) and I only sometimes remember that is the voice of Christ on the other end, but I am discovering that both of these practices are beneficial habits that put me in my proper place. Even with a telemarketer.

4. The news watch. Children without food, families who forage through the ruins of their homes, old people who triage their medicines, and blathering pundits who do nothing but blame. Watching the news on TV is like swallowing a bucket of downers. Is there a way to watch the news with our soul? Jesus taught us how. “My peace I give you, my peace I leave unto you” (John 14:27). We are all one spiritual body. Any member can literally give another member her peace, across space and time, and the peace of both will increase and multiply. We can watch the news and close our eyes and ask God for peace and give that peace to someone else. When we give our peace to someone far away we experience a peace that is beyond understanding.

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5. The walk. Everyone knows that when we smile at a stranger and say hello, the stranger smiles back and says hello, and we are strangers no more. I know we could also get killed that way but, hey, life is a risk and how joyful it is to walk around with the realization that the stranger walking his pit bull in the park is not a threat but an aspect of the same Christ we are. What we give, we get right back. Dogs teach us that, too.

Now, do I practice these ways of “praying always” always? I’m afraid not. Life has taught me to value excitement over peace. But I’m learning, sometimes through wisdom, mostly through suffering, to see and to be what I already am: a member of one body, and to know that what goes on in one of us happens in all of us. St. Paul made it clear: “If one part of the body suffers, every part suffers with it. But if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it” (1 Corinthians 12: 26). The lesson: Choose to see others with the same eye God sees you.

[Michael Leach is publisher emeritus and editor at large for Orbis Books. His newest book is Why Stay Catholic? Unexpected Answers to a Life-Changing Question.]

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This is inspiring, as I have

This is inspiring, as I have tried to do the same (at least 1, 2, 3, and 5). I admit that I have a hard time watching or listening to the news with a peaceful heart, so I have mostly stopped and get my news for the newspapers. It is easier on my soul to read the news than have it pushed into my face or throbbing in my ears.
I am also working at being more civil in postings on forums like this. Not always easy, because I have had a long history of sarcasm and general snarkiness. Still a work in progress.

Hey, Wardog, you're a kindred

Hey, Wardog, you're a kindred soul! Thanks for the kind words. Hang in there.

We're all a work in progress

We're all a work in progress Wardog00. I believe that much of holiness is in our journey, no matter how many times we veer off course. I will say that when I am able to hold back from the temptation for a cleaver, sarcastic remark, I realize that I am a little closer to what I want to be and what he who we follows asks us to be. And when I give into the temptation, I have an immediate satisfaction, which is followed by a longer lasting disappointment with myself.

I will pray that your efforts to respect others will take hold in your heart and ask that you pray the same for me.

Yours in Christ,

John David

I thank you for this most

I thank you for this most true "soul seeing" piece. I ask for the flooding in peace and love for all those whom I have chosen to rebuke yesterday and today on the NCR pages, and extend my true heart and soul to them. Even though right now I cannot fathom that idividuals expressing anti-Gospel sentiments are doing so in peace, I am also a work in progress, and choose to continue that work every day.

Just love your comments,

Just love your comments, Catherine! Thanks so much!

Mike, Great stuff! I love

Mike,

Great stuff! I love Nouwen's lesson. I need to hear it over and over again.

Thanks and I'll be looking for regular wisdom from you now via the good folks at NCR.

Joey D.

Thanks so much, Joe. Henri

Thanks so much, Joe. Henri knew, didn't he?

Hey Mike, You've been helping

Hey Mike,

You've been helping me see Christ in unlikely places since July of 1967 (Remember Army, the hitchiking hobo?) and your gift just keeps on giving. Thanks for these practices, which will change everything if I let them, and for the indomitable spirit from which they flow. Glad to see this new blog. The world needs what you have to give. --Tom

Hey, Tom, you gift of

Hey, Tom, you gift of encouragement not just to writers but to everyone you know is a beauty to receive and to behold. God bless.

Or, Mike, you could register

Or, Mike, you could register your phone number with donotcall.gov as well.

Thank you for the reminder about what to do about the news. I used to wonder about contemplative nuns, but now older and wiser I can see that praying for the world is a fantastic and needful activity. To wish others peace and myself I had not thought of. I will do that.

Of course one gives to charity, but does feel so powerless and angry when confronted by the torrent of suffering and injustice on the nightly news.

Gloria in excelsis Deo, et in terra pax hominibus bonae voluntatis. Merry Christmas to you and yours.

LOL,Cathy. Merry to you and

LOL,Cathy. Merry to you and yours also!

Mikey,I've always been in awe

Mikey,I've always been in awe of your 'up' spirit so much like St. Francis, whom many considered a madman because he was madly in love with God and saw God in all of nature and in man. If anyone truly comprehended how much God loves us, it could drive is into the 'madness' of Francis. NOTHING can separate us from the love of God for us. what a profound concept. We go thru life not understanding that as an indelible and powerful principle in our lives. If we actually paused and gave it some thought, our lives would be transformed in the love of Jesus. "I love you" are three words that are so overused that it has become meaningless at times. I think one in a miilion actually understand what love really means and when I read your comments on seeing Christ in every soul,even though I've read, in the New Testament, that we are all part of the Mystical Body of Christ,I see real applications of your convictions in day to day life.My thing for the past few years is to make small talk to every person at a checkdout line, to ask them if their feet hurt from standing all day or make a lame joke to get them to laugh and break up the boring routine of doing the same thing for 8 hours a day,5 days a week. They are heroic people working hard to help support their families and have to put up with some cranky customers. That is my way of seeing Christ and a soul in that person and a little kindness goes a long way and breaks up their day a little. I look forward to future columns in the NCR.
I am working on the telemarketers.That's a real calllenge to my patience and it's hard for me to see the face of Christ in the ones who just don't know what the word 'NO' means. Donal

I love your loving kindness,

I love your loving kindness, Donal. And it's always good for me to hear your words. Thanks.

I always find it strange that

I always find it strange that christians have to have an intermediary (in the case, Jesus) to somehow find others of value or worth our time. To me Jesus Christ or God or whoever does not give people their fundamental importance or value. We all give that to each other. We are all intimately connected with each other in every possible way. We do not need anything or anyone outside of humanity to make this truth more real. It simply is. This is the actual "good news".

A helpful way to look at

A helpful way to look at things, Daishin. We are truly as insperable from each other as sunbeams are to each other and the sun. Thanks for another way of seeing the good news.

Excellent, most excellent

Excellent, most excellent article. I have been attempting to do some of this for several years, and this writing is a good encouragement and reminder.

Our local St. Vincent de Paul Society volunteers pray before every session when we give food and clothes to the most needey, and we pray before our quarterly garage sales where we make funds to purchase food. My prayer is generally that we will see the face of Christ in every person who comes through our door, and that the people we serve will leave our facility feeling loved, respected, important, and that we have treated them with dignity.

I will make copies of this article to take to our next SSVDP spirituality meeting. May God bless you.

Dan Pickett

Hey,thanks, Dan. Vincent De

Hey,thanks, Dan. Vincent De Paul Society rules.

Nice stuff, hope

Nice stuff, hope someone--anyone--follows your lead.

Gracias, Mrs Kalabash,

Gracias, Mrs Kalabash, whomever you are!

THIS is a blog. Hanging

THIS is a blog. Hanging essays online to generate free-for-alls is not. I encourage NCR to pursue this model and, especially, to require registration of bloggers.

Glad you like, Bennet. Happy

Glad you like, Bennet. Happy new year!

Mike, I like the way your

Mike, I like the way your soul searching has become soul seeing. The seeing follows the searching and throws light on all of our faith journeys. An excellent, practical blog! Seeing the Christ who is here and near opens the door to the God who is far and away. It reminds me of the poster from decades ago which had two parts. One part said: God is Other, People! and the other half said: God is other people! Both are true.

Thanks, Tom. Great poster.

Thanks, Tom. Great poster. See ya!

How about the face of Christ

How about the face of Christ in the minds and decision-making of manufacturers and retailers while the amounts on shelf price tags constantly climb rapaciously higher while the incomes of the masses, including the workers of those manufacturers and the retailers continue to decrease?

Yup, love our enemies as our

Yup, love our enemies as our selves means just that. If we can't love the ones who seem to be the worst amongst us we can't love the best amongst us or even our selves. It's all just one like Jesus said.

Mike, you can bet that I'm

Mike, you can bet that I'm going to be looking at retail folks differently in the next couple days, thanks to this reminder. I'm happy to know you'll be writing regularly here, and thrilled to be able to peek at more of your work once again. Merry Christmas! :)

Thanks, Roxetta Stone. Love

Thanks, Roxetta Stone. Love ya.

Mike, We subscribe to NCR so

Mike,
We subscribe to NCR so thank you for thinking of us.I enjoyed your column.Q

Thanks so much, Jack. So

Thanks so much, Jack. So look forward to one of these days getting together with you and Marilyn and Tom and Kath again!

I read "Why Stay Catholic?"

I read "Why Stay Catholic?" as soon as it came out. Then in the Spring I had a run-in with our new conservative bishop about what I was teaching my high school juniors about the Church and gays--right out of the Catechism. The neo-cons let him know I had used Joel Burns' U-Tube posting "It Gets Better". Anyway, we had a staff in-service and I gave several teachers copies of "Why Stay Catholic?" I learned that at least one of them bought copies to give as Christmas presents.
Thanks for your chapters on Tom Kaminski (I never knew he did all those great things) and, of course, Andrew Greeley. Keep up the good work--we can't let them take our Church.

Hey, Don, so nice to "see"

Hey, Don, so nice to "see" you again! Fly your kite and don't take any crap!

What a small world it is!!

What a small world it is!! Imagine meeting you here. Now I know why you've been missing from PFO! God Speed!

Okay, Emma, what is PFO?

Okay, Emma, what is PFO? Glad to meet you here too!

People For Others, Paul

People For Others, Paul Campbell's Blog at Loyola Press. Have you forgotten us so quickly? Brightest Blessings for the New Year! :)

Yipes, I'll never ever forget

Yipes, I'll never ever forget you and the gang and PFO, Emma!

Thanks for a great blog that

Thanks for a great blog that reminds me what I should be about. It's easy to forget and make myself the center of the universe. I look forward to reading more from you. Happy New Year.

You make my heart feel good,

You make my heart feel good, Lizbet. I, too, forget that I'm not the center of the universe and writing about it helps when I don't also forget to ask God to come through in the words.

Great column Mike. Wish I

Great column Mike. Wish I could see the face of Christ in those Republican relatives of mine... (LOL).

Seriously, this brings to mind a sociologist who was challenged in his Intro to Sociology class as an undergrad by his prof with this question: "Do you know the name of the person who cleans the bathroom in your building? Remember, everyone is important and worthy of respect." He never forgot that and teaches such attention and awareness to his students today.

The practice of Seeing Christ in everyone... a new/old spiritual practice for the 21st century!

Hey, thanks, Rick.

Hey, thanks, Rick. Everybody: Rick's book A Faith That Frees is great stuff, especially for younger Catholics.

I came across this article

I came across this article through dotMagis - Ignatian Spirituality which I subscribe to. This is just what I needed to read!
It brought home to me what our faith leads us to do on a daily basis, it can seem like an insurmountable mountain but step b step we will reach that summit. Thank you for your insights.

Hey, Margaret, thank you for

Hey, Margaret, thank you for being in touch. I'll check out dotmagis.

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